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Máli's Story

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I happened to be at the Csömör shelter the day they brought Máli in. It was the first time I saw someone fill out a surrender form. It was a woman, very sad. It must have been a hard decision.

Máli had come to her two years earlier, from an acquaintance or a relative, maybe because the owner had fallen ill — I don't remember anymore. Since then she had written to the shelter several times; she too had tried to rehome Máli, because she was away for most of the day.

Máli with her shelter companion, Rex, on the wintry grassy field
Máli with her shelter companion, Rex, on the wintry grassy field

Máli is an escape artist — first from the garden, then from the outdoor kennel too. In the end the owner's solution was to keep her in a crate while she was out. That's why she wanted Máli to have an owner who could spend more time with her.

She arrived meekly, not understanding what was happening or why she couldn't go home. It was a terrible sight. Somehow it's easier when a dog comes in off the street. I would have taken her home that very day.

Máli resting on a paw-print blanket, a hand resting on her paw
Máli resting on a paw-print blanket, a hand resting on her paw

For a long time she was kennel-clean so she wouldn't relieve herself in the kennel. So on many days she was the first to go out for a walk, because she'd hold at least her poop between 1–2 in the afternoon and 8 in the morning.

Máli asleep, cuddled up with Lili and a stuffed monkey in a dog bed
Máli asleep, cuddled up with Lili and a stuffed monkey in a dog bed

It was really nice to walk her at the shelter, too. Back then she still lived alone in her kennel. She wasn't happy at the shelter because she's more of a people-oriented dog.

At first there was no focus on socializing her with other dogs. On an outing — the Csömör group walk, the Csatangoló — it turned out she walks nicely with other dogs, and she had a great play session with another shelter favorite of mine, Wendy.

Four dogs from behind on a winter field walk: Lili, Laska, Babkutya and Máli
Four dogs from behind on a winter field walk: Lili, Laska, Babkutya and Máli

At the end of the outing my partner joined too, with Bab and Lili. It had actually been his idea for me to go volunteer at the shelter, because I'd been saying for a long time that I wanted to foster. Back in July he still said I could go, but not bring a dog home.

Máli and Babkutya sleeping side by side on the couch
Máli and Babkutya sleeping side by side on the couch

When he saw Máli, he fell for her right away. Máli is the spitting image of his childhood dog, and she completely charmed him by running straight up to him, as if they already knew each other.

Then a long conversation started. At first we wanted to bring her home as a foster, suspecting we'd fail to give her back anyway. She would have been our second foster dog.

Four dogs looking up at the camera on a walk: Lili, Laska, Babkutya and Máli
Four dogs looking up at the camera on a walk: Lili, Laska, Babkutya and Máli

We didn't know how well she'd tolerate the fact that Lili can be grumbly and jealous. Lili has had several surgeries on her hind legs, and if a bigger dog attacked her it could cause serious harm.

In the end a fearful little dog, Laska, had a greater need for fostering at the time, so she moved in with us. We were preoccupied with Máli every day; my partner also often took our dogs so they could walk together near the shelter.

Máli lying among her stuffed animals in front of the blue dresser
Máli lying among her stuffed animals in front of the blue dresser

Laska warmed up to us very slowly, and there was no owner on the horizon. She came to us in mid-October from another foster, and by mid-December she still had no prospective adopter. Our first foster stint had lasted two and a half weeks, and we knew it was a gamble, but we thought it would be quicker.

By early December Máli felt very unwell at the shelter — she was visibly sad, even though by then she also had a companion, Rex. She grew less and less excited when I approached her kennel; she knew I could only spend about half an hour with her a day, while we walked.

Máli curled up on the couch, with Babkutya and the stuffed animals beside her
Máli curled up on the couch, with Babkutya and the stuffed animals beside her

Five dogs... exactly one more than we can handle. We talked with Zefír's other owner about Zefír not coming to us for "dad visits" for a month, and about giving Laska's listing a push.

So on December 17 we decided that, even though Laska was still with us, it was time to have a trial day with Máli. Halfway home we met my partner, with Bab, Lili and Laska. We went home together.

Máli and Babkutya snuggled into my lap
Máli and Babkutya snuggled into my lap

That day the agreement was still that Máli would go back to the shelter the next day. In the morning she came with me and we walked. I was the assistant carer; at the end of the day another carer, Dia, brought her home to us, and I filled out the contract too. The usual two-to-four-week trial period began.

Máli from behind on a round white bed
Máli from behind on a round white bed

And Lili grumbled. Máli hardly cared — she fell asleep in the middle of it. I think she was just happy to be somewhere soft. We watched them all day. An interesting coalition formed: Lili and Laska, cuddled together on the couch, grumbling at Máli.

Before Christmas Laska met a prospective adopter; it didn't go well. She's a terribly fearful dog; with us the goal was for her to get comfortable with people. She warmed up to me, but even after months she often fled from my partner and shied away from strangers on the street.

Máli and Lili asleep, cuddled together on the couch
Máli and Lili asleep, cuddled together on the couch

Because of that, we felt she needed to meet even more people. Between the holidays we decided that after New Year's Laska would go back to the shelter — partly for her own socialization, and partly so that Máli would have room to settle in with us.

As luck would have it, she was adopted 9 days later. We were really glad for her; she's happy now with her family, who were able to approach her in a way that suited her temperament.

Máli, Lili and Zefír standing up for a treat on the snowy field
Máli, Lili and Zefír standing up for a treat on the snowy field

Máli slowly started fitting into our routine and found her place in the family quite well. We introduced her to Zefír too; the first meeting was still awkward, but by the second they knew they were siblings from now on.

Collecting donations for the Csömör Civil Animal Protection Organization with Máli
Collecting donations for the Csömör Civil Animal Protection Organization with Máli

A big cuddly bear. We often call her that — Mackó ("Bear"). She constantly wants closeness, attention, petting. She paws at me if I happen to stop petting her.

I tried practicing with her too. She knows a lot — she probably went to school. Sadly, aggressive training methods may have crept in as well, because if I say "what are you doing?" to her, she runs over and throws herself on her back like a beetle.

Me sitting on a fallen log with Máli, Babkutya and Lili on a forest outing
Me sitting on a fallen log with Máli, Babkutya and Lili on a forest outing

Máli has a big appetite; she eats from a slow-feeder bowl. After the lunchtime walk she usually gets a bigger treat, dried chews. Sometimes she swallows them whole.

The previous owner had told us Máli isn't suited to living with a cat. Well, that put it very mildly. On walks she's constantly on radar with her ears up, watching only for cats. People, dogs, birds interest her far less.

Máli and her companions at a dog-friendly ice cream shop
Máli and her companions at a dog-friendly ice cream shop

So she's a big cat-hunter; you have to be careful with her. That's exactly why there are no plans for her to walk off-leash. Her instincts in this area are far stronger than our bond. It was hard to accept, but for her the long leash it is.

After the holidays we booked her an appointment at Duo-Vet for a senior check-up. She turned 7 in December; for a dog this large, that's already senior age. They do an ultrasound, examine the body thoroughly, and run a larger lab panel too, which you have to wait for.

Four dogs from behind on a walk along the path: Lili, Máli, Babkutya and Zefír
Four dogs from behind on a walk along the path: Lili, Máli, Babkutya and Zefír

After the exam we left thinking Máli was completely healthy, but that we should still wait for the lab results. Those showed her kidney values were somewhat worse than they should be, and that she had either skin worms or heartworm.

Babkutya and Máli in the sunlight on the rag rug in front of the tiled stove
Babkutya and Máli in the sunlight on the rag rug in front of the tiled stove

Further testing showed her kidneys weren't so worrying, but she did unfortunately have both skin worms and heartworm. We started the slow course of treatment right away. For a month she took an antibiotic with a probiotic, then a spot-on treatment once a month. As a supplement she gets a dewormer every three months, and Simparica against ticks, offset by two weeks from the spot-on.

According to our Csömör vet, the long course really is long — so instead of six months it's a sure 1–2 years, and even during that time the result can be a false negative. That's the road we set out on.

Máli, Lili and Babkutya on a sunny walk, from above
Máli, Lili and Babkutya on a sunny walk, from above

Máli tolerates the treatment well; she's willing to accept the meds in a treat (bologna, liver pâté, frankfurter). If we put them in her usual daily food, she licks around them and spits them out. In that respect too, we know her well by now.

Máli resting with two companions in a summer yard, from behind
Máli resting with two companions in a summer yard, from behind

On Sunday, June 7, we were visiting friends when she first lifted her leg, in pain. I checked her paw, there was nothing in it, I stroked it all over. Afterward she seemed fine.

By Monday evening she was visibly and consistently limping. Tuesday morning we were already at the Csömör vet. He examined her thoroughly and, on her left hind leg, felt a harder, bony part. It came up that, since she's an escape artist, maybe something had healed badly in the past — but we'd need to keep an eye on it. For now she got a painkiller.

Máli, Zefír and Babkutya sunbathing in the yard
Máli, Zefír and Babkutya sunbathing in the yard

It didn't improve over a few days, and the following Monday she was X-rayed. That's June 15. It revealed a tumor originating in the bone of her left hind leg, and that's why she was limping.

Máli and Babkutya lounging at my feet with a green dino plush
Máli and Babkutya lounging at my feet with a green dino plush

By Wednesday evening we were at the oncologist at Duo-Vet; the cytology had come back by then too, showing a very aggressive tumor. Honestly, I didn't know what to prepare for.

By then I'd been through the emotional rollercoaster over a few days, and that day I went in afraid the doctor would say she had to be put to sleep — that there was nothing we could do and she was in such pain that even that couldn't be helped.

Máli and Babkutya walking off down the path between the hedges
Máli and Babkutya walking off down the path between the hedges

Instead, we were given alternatives. The following Monday her leg would have to be amputated, then chemotherapy starting Friday. There's an experimental treatment too — an anti-tumor vaccine made using the tumor itself.

My partner sitting in the yard, surrounded by Máli and the other dogs
My partner sitting in the yard, surrounded by Máli and the other dogs

From all this I only heard the numbers: this way she could get 2–3 years back. If we did nothing, she'd have a few months, at most half a year, in great pain. 2–3 pain-free years are worth everything.

I'd already prepared myself mentally for the amputation, because several people had said there was no other way. The doctor confirmed that that leg was already done for — it only meant a burden and pain for her. Within 1–2 days she'd adjust to bearing weight on three legs.

Máli dug the onion out of the garden again and again
Máli dug the onion out of the garden again and again

The surgeon performed the amputation nicely, so to speak. He didn't cut into muscle or bone but rounded it off. That also helps her recovery.

Máli resting on the floor, her head laid on a plush octopus
Máli resting on the floor, her head laid on a plush octopus

For the chemotherapy we chose the complex therapy; depending on the histology it'll be 6–8 sessions, every three weeks. If we start chemo within 5 days of the amputation, it can mean +200 days in terms of life expectancy.

Máli lying and smiling in a striped harness, with a leash
Máli lying and smiling in a striped harness, with a leash

The anti-tumor vaccine may be useful against recurrence. The doctor also said it's rare for a similar tumor to form in the other hind leg.

Máli cooling off in the blue kiddie pool, tongue lolling out
Máli cooling off in the blue kiddie pool, tongue lolling out

A friend of mine said we'd learn a lot from this, and she's right. But at the same time, as my partner remarked, this isn't how we'd have wanted to learn these things.

Máli lying in the grass beside the house, looking toward the gate at dusk
Máli lying in the grass beside the house, looking toward the gate at dusk

On June 22 they amputated Máli's left hind leg. We took her in for 9 a.m.; at that point she only got a sedative and a painkiller. She last ate at midnight, at the doctor's request. In the waiting room she smiled sweetly.

Máli acting up after the surgery, in a cone and on three legs in the garden
Máli playing after the surgery, in a cone and on three legs in the garden

Because of the heartworm, the anesthesia was dangerous for Máli, though the week before she'd finally had a negative rapid test. Unfortunately it could have been a false negative, but it gave us hope at least in that regard.

In the morning we were told they'd call when the surgery was over — it was supposed to be a couple of hours, scheduled for 11:30. By 2 we were really biting our nails. In the end we could pick her up around 6; everything had gone fine.

A close-up of Máli's face in the white protective cone
A close-up of Máli's face in the white protective cone

The anesthesiologist explained everything thoroughly; we're very grateful to her. On the whole, Duo-Vet is staffed by well-prepared, animal-loving professionals. For anything serious, we always turn to them.

Until around noon the next day Máli was fairly disoriented — sometimes she whimpered, sometimes she dreamed. But the hardest part was behind her. Two days after the surgery we could already walk a kilometer, with a short rest. The heat also limited how much she could move.

Me asleep, Máli in her cone snuggled up beside her on the bed
Me asleep, Máli in her cone snuggled up beside her on the bed

After that we walked every evening — or rather, she ran and I fluttered along behind her. Because of the three-legged dynamics, it's easier for her to go fast. I was very proud of her. Some people didn't even notice she was walking on three legs.

On Friday she got through the chemo; an orange fluid ran in over 20 minutes. I could be with her the whole time, which meant a lot. At first she stood, then she lay down. She didn't understand why we were waiting there. They said side effects could show up from the next day on.

Máli smiling in her cone; the surgical suture is clearly visible on her shaved side
Máli smiling in her cone; the surgical suture is clearly visible on her shaved side

In the first weeks she didn't look good — you could see she was down. The suture stayed nice throughout, but they warned us that edema could form underneath, because the body would keep circulating toward the now-missing leg.

Fluid can seep out through the edema, in which case we should blot it up. On Saturday morning Máli stood up, and half a liter to a liter of thick reddish-yellowish fluid ran out of her; her skin couldn't take it and split open. Despite every precaution, she unfortunately got an infection and needed antibiotics.

The next morning I rushed to Minivet, taking the bus in the middle of a heat alert. There was a paper note posted saying they only accept cash on weekends. It's not posted on their website. Who has cash in 2026? I didn't have a card on me either — I pay by phone.

Máli in a cone and a t-shirt on the doorstep, a big fan in front of her in the heat
Máli in a cone and a t-shirt on the doorstep, a big fan in front of her in the heat

That's when I cried for the first time, on the way home — I'd held out until then. That they really have to hassle you with this. The card terminal stood right there and they wouldn't turn it on. Nobody comes to the vet on a weekend for fun. My partner had to make another trip to get the medicine with cash.

On Monday we also got a Betadine saline solution from her Csömör vet, and we cleaned the wound with it three times a day. She also got a probiotic, Venoruton since the surgery, a stomach protectant, a painkiller, and canine Béres Drops.

She has her own medicine box, portioned out for each day. Luckily the chemo had no side effects this first time; she got an anti-nausea med too, just in case. Every time I thought her meds were about to run out, she got more.

Máli acts as if this whole thing doesn't concern her — it bothers her more than anything. The pain decreased a lot after the amputation, and you can see it on her. She's lively, she plays, she gets into mischief, she runs. She paws in her sleep for me to pet her.

Máli lying on her side, chewing the green knitted dino toy
Máli lying on her side, chewing the green knitted dino toy

And this is where we are in time.

Máli in her cone in the boot of a car, on a bed; the healing suture is visible
Máli in her cone in the boot of a car, on a bed; the healing suture is visible